How to overcome and deal with self-criticism

Criticism is something that comes to most of us easily, particularly against ourselves.

However the mind does not filter out whether it is based on truth or not. It listens and takes on board what we believe about ourselves and creates a reality around that. Our experiences merely reflect the views that we hold inside of us.

If as a child, we came to believe that we were inadequate in any way, we carry these patterns into our adulthood. It is safer to recreate these patterns, than to let go of the fear and experience something new. If you did not experience acceptance and encouragement as a child, it becomes difficult to accept these as an adult.

How often do you think thoughts along the following lines?

  • I’m not good enough
  • I don’t deserve that
  • I could never
  • I’m not ready to
  • I’m not strong enough
  • I might get hurt
  • They don’t like me
  • No one ever listens
  • I’m not lovable
  • If they only knew what I was like inside
  • I’m afraid to

These thought patterns, we repeat day after day, even though we may not be aware of how often we do it. The majority of our thoughts, are the same thoughts we had yesterday, last week, last month and even last year.

Changing our old beliefs and removing self-criticism

We have the power to change those thoughts and create new experiences for ourselves, that reflect our new beliefs.

Take note of the thoughts you have towards yourself throughout the day and when you notice a negative one, replace it with a positive saying or affirmation. Say it with passion and feeling, as you repeat it to yourself and visualise in your mind a successful outcome.

“I approve of myself. All is well in my world.” is a great general affirmation that you could use. Accepting ourselves, just as we are, allows for the voice of self-criticism to be lowered. Always keep your affirmations in the present tense, as if it has already happened. Otherwise your goal will always be just outside of your reach.

As you come to replace the negative with the positive, in time you will rewrite your subconscious pattern. It may resist and throw up new criticisms, however with persistence it’s possible to overcome these.

Give it a try over the next few days and see how changing your perception of yourself, can change the world around you.

Here’s a few examples that you could try:

  • I think only nourishing and loving thoughts towards myself
  • I’m surrounded by people that love and care for me
  • I am fit and healthy, I feel full of energy
  • I’m listened to with interest
  • I sleep in peace and wake with joy
  • I create a new life, with new rules that completely supports me

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